my grandfather (pop pop, as i and everyone else call him) is the one who married us. he was the pastor of the church i attended as a child for over twenty years, and any spirituality i have has definitely been passed from him. i had considered hiring a rando to marry us so that pop pop could just ~enjoy~ the wedding, but i truly couldn’t imagine anyone else doing it. he actually stopped performing marriage ceremonies a few years ago, but came out of retirement for me 😉 to have someone who’s been a part of so many exclamations of love, so many family beginnings, so many heartfelt moments, be the one to marry us… i felt enveloped in the history of love.
as the ceremony time ticked past me, a member of the venue staff told me that there were still a lot of empty chairs. i honestly should have forseen this, since we were supposed to start walking at 4:30. on a weekday. when every other person on the planet is leaving work. we held the processional about 20-25 minutes and it honestly didn’t bother me at all. i’m late to everything, i have no space to complain.
the boys walked out with my grandfather, to a jazz version of “there’s a great big beautiful tomorrow.” it sounds hokey but was actually perfect for… well, all of them. big goofy disney nerds in love with love and each other. my folks also ended up scooting out to this song, even though they weren’t supposed to, because the dj…. didn’t know? didn’t understand? got there super late and didn’t check in? you pick!
i walked in to sza.
there were these big white doors at the end of the aisle hiding me from everyone else, and they opened them as the guitar began to play. the sun was glowing over everyone, and i was overwhelmed by all of the familiar faces that traveled from near and far. i definitely walked too fast. it’s okay! jake was at the end, and that’s all that really mattered to me.
after a few words, a poem that jake and i love was read by terrence. that poem, ‘you came too,’ is by nikki giovanni. i’ve included it below if you wanna, like, cry, or whatever…
i came to the crowd seeking friends
i came to the crowd seeking love
i came to the crowd for understanding
i found you
i came to the crowd to weep
i came to the crowd to laugh
you dried my tears
you shared my happiness
i went from the crowd seeking you
i went from the crowd seeking me
i went from the crowd forever
you came, too
our whole ceremony was gorgeous, and i cried for about 83% of it.
especially so, when my grandfather performed our handfasting. handfasting was originally the celtic term for wedding, but has evolved into the name for the ceremony of “tying the knot.” we chose to use three ribbons, each to represent a part of our lives: past, present, and future. the past specifically speaks to the loss of my brother. the pain of his death is something that has affected everyone in my family and through them, everyone else i know. to me, our wedding was a moment of healing for all of us.
the present represented the friends and family that were at the ceremony, as well as those who couldn’t make it. every person who has loved and supported us has helped us learn and grow about each other, and made us a better pair. the future is of course…. just that. our future life as a unit. whatever joy or sadness we experience, whatever triumphs or trials we face, we will do them together.
walking back down the aisle together with our hands tied to each other, the day became a blur. a happy, comfortable, beautiful blur.
we went inside the classroom where we had our first look to wait for the rest of our party. as they started running in, we were all crying and laughing and for some reason– dancing like small world dolls. why? couldn’t tell ya!
everyone trickled out into cocktail hour while we took family photos. this was a much longer and arduous process than i preferred, but that’s family i guess! i know they’re gonna be worth it when we’re all old and ugly (since we are all currently young and beautiful). when we finally got inside, someone had stowed away two of the special cocktails my uncle josh had cooked up. thank goodness, because almost every single person at our wedding had chosen to drink that over wine or beer, and we were out before the reception even began. it was delicious, no doubt thanks to noah’s fizzy lemonade, created by my brilliant cousin noah. josh combined the lemonade with vermont-specific spirits, so i got a little northeast flavor in my day after all. after the wedding my mom ended up returning a ton of alcohol, simply because of this cocktail’s impact, so thanks y’all for being budget friendly!
the reception deserves it’s own post, mostly so i can revel in the beauty of my guests and show you what amazing dancers they all are. so. much. happened! to give you a little teaser, we opted to forgo the traditional wedding cake in favor of something more fun: an ice cream truck. i will say no more! you’ll just have to wait! xx, k.
all fancy photos in this post were taken by the incredible madeline barr.
I’m loving reading about your day!! And your photos are giving me lots of inspo for mine — they got me swooning!
Your wedding recaps are absolute perfection and you looked amazing!!!
This entire thing is beautiful. I am so so happy for you guys. I’ve loved your instagram for years and have been cheering you on and rooting for your happiness. The bit about dancing like it’s a small world dolls was the best, too. Sending you both all of my love.
I’m so happy these photos are starting to come out. It really looked like a beautiful evening and I’m over the moon for you and Jake! (And Lucy)
Love this so much!!! The pics are literally amazing and my heart is so full!
Your wedding looked gorgeous! Congratulations ?
These photos are absolutely stunning! Thanks for sharing with us!
Thank you for sharing your beautiful wedding! The pictures are absolutely gorgeous!!
I am living for your wedding pictures. The colors you chose are gorgeous. I also love that your grandfather performed the ceremony. I don’t know if anyone who has done the handfasting st their ceremony before. Such a neat idea! I can’t wait to see your reception pictures!
ahhh loved your post!! i love the fact that jake walked out to a great big beautiful tomorrow! such a nice touch. can’t wait to read more!
This 100% made me cry!! (I’m also still a lil emotional & feeling the love after attending my best friends’ wedding this weekend haha)
What a gorgeous ceremony. That poem is perfect, and your comments on using the event to heal as a community regarding your brother are so heartfelt and beautiful. Sounds like the day was everything!!
Everything about your wedding was absolutely stunning. You brought so much of yourselves into it and it all fell together perfectly. Well done and great post! Looking forward to more ❤️
On my wedding day everything was going wrong, there was a point before the ceremony where I was just like ” I am just gonna roll with it” and I had a blast all day instead of worrying!
Glad it all worked out for you at the end ?
yesss!! i feel like rolling with it is truly all we can do at some point in every day, haha.
I’m obsessed with your wedding please don’t stop posting about it!!!
Your wedding was absolutely GORGEOUS and you added so many heartwarming, sentimental, and thoughtful details. I know that you and Jake got married in January and I always wanted to ask but didn’t want to be a weirdo but are you registered anywhere? A love like yours needs to be celebrated. Congratulations on your marriage, may you both live happily ever after!
The dreamiest wedding ever.
I just love LOVE so much! Your wedding looked like a dream, everything you’ve posted so far has made me cry. I can’t wait to hear more about the reception!
I absolutely love LOVE so much. Your wedding truly looked so much like a dream and every post is making me gross sob. I can’t wait to see the post about your reception!
Such a beautiful ceremony, thank you for sharing.
a l e x
This was so sweet! Thank you for sharing ❤️
These photos and your love are so inspiring!
In the throes of wedding planning myself right now, the most important thing to me is the MOOD. And I just think you and your crew exude happiness and love, it’s so nice to see.
Keep these posts coming – would love to see anything about that amazing moon backdrop.
every time someone asked me what my wedding’s “theme” was, i just said “moody florals.” just… really upset, pouting flowers. thankfully that actually translated and we could just enjoy it!
my dad actually made the moon a few days before the wedding and surprised me with it day of! it’s so beautiful and HUGE and detailed, i’m still in shock.
This looks magical all around. Major props to your photographer being stunning. I’m glad you had a day that was completely yours. May you always have magic and light in your lives
madeline is truly an artist and i am so so blessed to know her and to have her in my life!!!
So beautiful! I love the door reveal idea!
honestly they just had them at the venue and i was like “…..yeah, let’s throw ’em in there!” haha!
THIS MADE ME CRY!!! you’re all such beautiful people and I can’t wait to see and read more about the best wedding ever.
Your wedding was indescribably gorgeous and what really stands out is how exceedingly happy you look in every single photo. I love that you’re so honest with your writing and how emotional this day was for you and everybody involved, and it’s so refreshing to see a bride so truly joyful to be marrying the person you love. That’s not something I’ve seen in many weddings I’ve been to recently
I love the way you write, and I really enjoyed the way you described this beautiful day! The photos are amazing as well
Gorgeous wedding! Crazy to think I’ve follows you for so long and now you’re married! Congrats girl xx
it’s honestly insane how long i’ve been telling the internet about my life, lol!! thank you so much <3
Gorgeous wedding! Crazy to think I’ve follows you for so long and now you’re married! Congrats girl x
Looks beautiful! I get married next year in the summer so always looking for potential ideas. Your wedding seems like it was amazing. Very happy for you!
I can feel y’alls joy from my screen! Everything came out so stunning. I especially love that your grandpa married y’all. If my papa was alive I would want him to marry me and my partner. Seriously though, y’all looked so good and I love the color scheme for the cocktail hour! ?congratulations!?